Even Video Games

Connection is key to a healthy relationship with our children.

And I would guess that most of you would agree with that statement and are actively working to build a great connection with your child. But I wonder what lengths we are willing to go to build a strong connection with our child?

This past Christmas we got a Nintendo Switch for our family and it has mostly been our son who has used it. But recently he got NBA 2k22 and started playing it and one day he asked me to play with him.

And luckily I did. It would have been easy to come up with a hundred reasons why that wouldn’t work or claim that I was too busy. But, luckily I said yes.

My son and I have played so many games and have spent so much time together. And afterward, we talk about the games and players and even about some current basketball, which by the way, I have no idea about.

And all of this time together and this shared interest have helped us grow our connection. I am much more connected with my son than before. All because of a stupid video game.

I think it can be easy for us parents that don’t play video games to think that they are silly or a waste of time. And in some cases, kids and adults are addicted to video games. BUT, if done right, video games can be an awesome way for us to connect with our kids. And in my case be the envy of all of the neighborhood kids because I can beat them all in NBA 2k22 (I had to get that brag in there).

So, what simple activity can you do to strengthen the connection with your teen?

What simple activity can you do that will mean so much to your teen? Remember, it doesn’t have to be something amazing. And you don’t have to be good at it. All that matters is that you continue to show up and continue to take an interest in their life.

And as I am constantly reminded, the moments I have with my son are fleeting and I want to make the best use of each moment.

Even if it means playing video games.

Mike Van Drie

Director of Student Ministries at Providence Church