The Language of Love
What is informing your teenager’s picture of love? Sadly, the depictions of love that young people are often exposed to today (through social media, pornography, sexting, etc.) normalize the pursuit of whatever makes them feel most loved in the moment, with little regard for the potentially painful consequences. In fact, the team at Axis explains that for many teens, sexting has “become the new measure of popularity and likeability.” This is why it is so essential to talk with your teen early and often about setting healthy, God-ordained boundaries around sexual activity - including that which is accessible through the use of technology.
Many parents express concern over exposing their children to sensitive topics too soon, which is understandable. Trusted experts, including Focus on the Family, affirm that having age-appropriate conversations about God’s design for sexual activity early (before dating) does not rob children of their innocence. Instead, these conversations help protect them from unintended consequences and heartbreak.
As a parent, the values you set within your home significantly impact the choices your teenager will make, so you are the best educators for your teen’s social and sexual health. Whether you have already started having these conversations in your home or not, please know that you don’t have to navigate them alone! There are many excellent resources available to support you through these conversations with your teens.
Check out these articles to help you think broader or to begin the journey of consistent conversation with your kids. In addition, reach out to Positive Options’ Project BestLife team anytime for practical guidance or resources.
Janelle Kelly Project BestLife Specialist